Talking to your loved one about assisted living is probably one of the hardest things you will ever do, but it’s something that has to be done. So, pick up your courage and hold on to your compassion, since it is a conversation that must happen at some point. It is always better to discuss … Read more
Martha a 90 year young, pleasantly spirited lady with Mild Impaired Cognition, and her son Bob, made the decision to move Martha to adult foster home. Martha was having a few more falls, and the hope was, with a smaller setting in an AFH she would have better over sight. The first morning after her move, I received a frantic call from her son Bob saying mom had to move, she wasn’t adapting to the new home, she was anxious and agitated.
Fred and Mary lived next door to their son and daughter in law. As they aged their son and daughter in law started doing more and more around the house for them. It started with mowing the lawn and within a few years it had escalated to cleaning, shopping, laundry and bringing three meals a day as they noticed Fred and Mary were not cooking meals for themselves. The few times had tried cooking there were signs that it didn’t go well such as burned potholders on the stove, ovens left on all day and half eaten food on dirty plates in the sink…We met with the daughter in law who was exhausted from the stress of being a family caregiver. She didn’t know what to do but knew something needed to change and quickly. We talked about what Fred and Mary might need, what they would want in an ideal retirement living situation, where they would want to live and how much they could afford to pay. We decided the best option would be to live in an independent living community that had assisted living too. This would give them a place to move when their care needs became greater. We talked about options in the town in which they lived toured the ones that were of interest. We found the perfect room in a building in Beaverton in which many of their friends also lived.